19 Jan 2016

Being an Adult: Expectation V's Reality

Expectation V Reality        

With my birthday fast approaching and having now lived through my 30th year of life I thought it would be fun to do an 'Adulting: Expectation V's Reality' post about what my teenage self thought my life was going to look like when i was (gasp!) old an adult.


Expectation: Like I stepped out of the pages of a magazine.

Reality: Most of my wardrobe is work wear, yoga pants and hoodies, bathers and various tops with pineapples on them. If I do happen to put together a chic looking outfit it is usually a fluke or I have sent 1 million SnapChats to my sisters asking for opinions/advice. As un-chic as it is I love my wardrobe. It suits my current lifestyle and pretty much all the pieces i have in it make me smile, especially the bathers because that means I'm going to the BEACH!

Social Life

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Expectation: Champagne brunches, long lunches and dinner parties.

Reality: Ain't nobody got time for all that! I don't have a social calendar that is brimming like I imagined it would be when I was a teen, and I am so grateful for that. I am definitely what would be classified as an introvert. I prefer to spend time with my friends and family in smaller groups at quieter places so I can listen to their worries/stories/adventures/dreams/plans. One of my favourite past times is curling up in the sun and reading.

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Expectation: Everything perfect and in its place.

Reality: Overflowing washing baskets, cat hair on the carpets, dishes in the sink, bed unmade, closet unorganised, Christmas tree base still sitting in the corner of the room because we haven't figured out where to store it. The Mr and I try our best to stay on top of the household chores but the reality is is that life is too short to be spending all our free time making sure our home is showroom ready, the washing can wait.


Expectation: Flawless

Reality: Definitely not flawless. I still struggle with moderate acne on my face and body, most of the time I have mild eczema when can flare up to sever on my face and scalp which it seems the only true cure for is regular dips in the ocean (shame...). I do feel though that I am now at a point where I'm pretty good at managing my skin issues. I use products from the Dr. Organic Dead Sea Mineral's range and have found significant improvement by only cleansing my face if I have something to wash off it like make-up or sunscreen. Otherwise I just rinse with water from my Waters Co Therapy Shower Head, you wouldn't believe the amount of crap nasties this thing filters out.


Expectation: Master of my Monthly

Reality: Seriously, no idea. I truly thought that by now I would have this thing under control. I mean, I've had plenty of practise. I still worry about leakage or being caught out unprepared somewhere public. I still sacrifice many pairs of undies yearly to the cause. I still can't go swimming carefree for the first few days of my period and there is no way you would get me to go anywhere without access to some form of bathroom at that time. Oh, and cramps are exhausting! BUT I am so grateful that it comes pretty much on schedule each month. Your period or lack there of it is a really good indicator of your internal health, pay attention to it ladies and try not to hate on it too much (even though it can be a biatch). Some brands of sanitary products that I love are TOM and Tsuno.

Photo of the Mr and I by the very talented Ellen of KapturE Photography

Expectation: Jessie and Becky

Reality: Marriage is awesome! I frigging (excuse the language) LOVE being a wife :) I feel so blessed to have had my Mr come into my life. Finding someone that shares the same vision for life as you do and has equally aligned morals as you do isn't easy. There's no way to create it you just have to be really really really lucky. Many of us have grown up seeing Marriage as a measure of success, news flash: it's not. Nobody should ever have a life goal of being married. Putting a check box in front of it is a recipe for disaster. A better goal would be to surround yourself with people that make you feel loved, that support your journey to happiness (hint: it is in you and YOU are responsible for it) and that generally bring positivity into your life. There is a great book that has been around for some time now called The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin that is written really well and has you coming away with a different perspective on the nuances of living life.

I hope you have enjoyed this glimpse into the way my brain works, I know this post is very different from my other content here on The Daycation Diary. Please note that I am in no way trying to tell people how to live their lives or that I think I have mine all figured out, but if the lessons I have learned from my personal experiences or those of the ones I love can help you in changing the way you view a challenge or act in a situation then that's awesome :)

A massive thank you to my beautiful friend who played model for me and thank you to everyone who has supported me in starting my blog. I would have never made this leap without your encouragement. I am looking forward to learning more lessons as an 'Adult' (I still don't feel qualified to be called this.. seriously... example: I bought a Little Mermaid PEZ dispenser the other day, for myself) and seeing what 2016 has in store.


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